Secret Mommy-hood Confession Saturday

I’m a part time mom.

I used to hate being called this, but basically, I suppose it’s true.

I’m divorced and have my children 50% of the time, because I feel that children should spend equal amounts of time between mother and father. It’s only fair. Just because he’s a shitty husband, that doesn’t make him a shitty father. Plus, I put myself in his shoes and thought “I wouldn’t want to go for a week without seeing the boys”, so this is the arrangement.

And it usually works out just fine.

My confession is:

<<hanging my head in shame>>

I love my kid-free weekends.

There I said it.

As much as I love my children (and I do love them – more than anything else in this WORLD – and would love to have them with me full time.) I have gotten used to the every other weekend life.

I think it started when I was first separated. That first weekend, I had no idea what to do with myself, while the kiddos were at their Dad’s. I felt like I was just walking around in circles and accomplishing nothing.

That passed pretty quickly.

I soon realized that I could clean the whole house without having to re-clean it 10 minutes later!

OR

I could sleep until 8 o’clock! Or later if my internal clock wasn’t ringing!!!

OR

If I told someone “sure, I’ll be right there” – I could actually be right there.

I know!! – Amazing!

Now – Hubby and I do most everything together… we golf, we travel (relatively close to home, but still…), we camp, go to watch the Jays get slaughtered by the Yankees baseball games and love to have that impromptu date night and pick a restaurant on the fly. We’re best friends, and soulmates.

We have had discussions of adding another little person to our lives. It’s something that we’d love to do while we are still young and can enjoy it. And I have to admit, the longing to have another baby, a little bit of he and I together, strikes me quite often, especially since we’ve moved into a perpetually pregnant neighbourhood.

But there is that ever-nagging question:

Who will take the baby every other weekend???

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6 thoughts on “Secret Mommy-hood Confession Saturday

  1. I found your post via The Red Dress Club, and I wanted to let you know I had been here.

    You’ve shared something that I have long suspected. I have witnessed my parent’s relationship completely change since they stopped having kids in the house. I suspect that having your kid-free weekends is part of the reason you have such a passion for mommy-hood. It works for you.

    Thanks for sharing. And for carrying on the species so my husband and I don’t have to. šŸ˜‰

  2. That thought has crossed my mind a few times. Don’t get me wrong, I am happily married but the idea of being able to ship off the kiddos somewhere for all those reasons you listed sounds quite appealing!

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